John's Random Thoughts and Ideas

A Mom's Definition of Philanthropy--Hugs Count!

I just got this message from my mother after she read my latest post. And my response. 

Dear JOHN

WHEN I FULLY REALIZED WE ALL HAVE THE SAME 24 HOURS A DAY.
IT IS FASCINATING HOW WE SQUANDER OUR LIFE.

I FEEL LIKE A BILLIONAIRE. I CAN GIVE OUT KINDHEARTEDNESS
IN GREAT AMOUNTS HERE AT POHAI NANI. AND I DEEPLY HOPE
IT CHEERS SOMEONE. SOMETIMES I HUG SOMEONE WHO I THINK
DOES NOT GET HUGS AND GUESS WHAT, I FEEL LIKE SOMEONE
HUGGED ME BACK. IT DOESN'T ALWAYS NEED TO BE MONEY
YOU GIVE AWAY. CAN THAT BE PHILANTHROPY IN A WARM
HUMAN WAY?

I LOVED THE ARTICLE, YOUR WRITINGS ALWAYS MAKE YOU
THINK WORLDLY. THANK YOU SON.

YOUR SIMPLE MINDED MOM.

Mom

I truly wish I was as "simple minded" as you! I make things too complicated. I over analyze. We need greater simplicity.

I try to be as generous as you (wait don't react yet). You give yourself away in every moment. In every hug (yes hugs count!)

I love that you love what I am writing. Virtual hug to you! Love, your complex minded son. John

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